“I’ll tell you the problem with the scientific power that you’re using here, it didn’t require any discipline to attain it. You read what others had done and you took the next step. You didn’t earn the knowledge for yourselves, so you don’t take any responsibility for it. You stood on the shoulders of geniuses to accomplish something as fast as you could, and before you even knew what you had, you patented it, and packaged it, and slapped it on a plastic lunchbox…” Jurassic Park (Dr. Ian Malcolm)
When I first started this holy and sacred blog some weeks ago, I began with a simple thesis to apply motherhood and mothers to the book, Jurassic Park. And, as I’ve explored various topics ranging from the care-taking of a child to human connection with other mothers…My sphere has grown substantially from not only the application of this true and worthy text, to also bragging about random celebrities I encounter… to telling quirky stories about myself, my daughter, and my dog.
I am a blogger now. And that means I need to give advice, which is what I will do today. In some professions you need to have academics or certificates, or some type of credentials to do that. Not so of blogging. Your life experience is enough.
I mean it’s not like I’m a big NOBODY… I mean, sure… I could brag and say I’ve written the menus for an out-of-business theme restaurant. I could tell you that I helped name the caskets in my Dad’s casket store…. There is a blue casket that I named ETERNAL SKY. Not only is it the highest selling casket among men ages eighty- and- over… Users love it, and he has received no complaints or returns on it yet.
What started me on this lesson to give you some pointed advice began yesterday when I left my food journal at Starbucks. I was in a hurry to get Harper to school so I could get to my office, which is actually a table at Starbucks. This is the office of every writer in Los Angeles, and good luck ever finding a seat at any Starbucks in this city because of all the writers working there.
Anyway, when I left, I walked out without my food journal, and quite obviously… I will NEVER EVER go back for it.
Keeping journals is a thing I have always done, and being on a diet is also something I have always done… So inevitably, I buy a new journal that I determine with be a food journal… And I write things like…
1/2 cup Raisin Bran.
1/2 Cup Milk.
Then eventually, I quit keeping my food journal… And I start writing other things in it like goals, or thoughts, or ideas for projects… I like to write down goals I have for Harper as well… And also little snippets of inspirational books. I also record dreams I’ve had. And if there is a particular song that I connect with, which I call my Personal Life Theme Song, I will write it down, so that when future generations review my journal they will have a soundtrack to play while they are doing it.
That’s also something I would advise you to do as well. Find a good Personal Life Theme Song.
Right now, my Personal Life Theme Song is: This Is The Best Day Of My Life by American Authors. This is a GREAT Life Theme Song because, as the title explains… It’s a song that declares whatever day it’s played on, the best day of a persons life.
I like to play it in the morning, every day as I start my day…
Lately, though, the title of the song reminds me of that saying… This could be the LAST day of your life… So whenever I start singing about how this could be the BEST day of my life… I quietly think, it could also be the LAST day of my life…
I find that thought depressing, so I don’t know how much longer I can use it as my theme song. I may have to go back to my old standby, We Will Rock You.
My mother is a highly accomplished person who speaks four languages, has written a book, has a doctorate degree, teaches piano lessons, plays in a harp ensemble, and also does a lot of volunteer work. She was the daughter of a West Texas cotton farmer, and I remember her rising early every morning when I was a child and saying, “Whenever I wake up, I say a prayer, drink my coffee, and greet each day knowing it could be the last one I’m given. Then, I make a decision to do my best.”
This is why she has done so much… And it’s a great motivator, looking at the big picture like that.
I would like to think that way, but in all honestly, if I were to wake up and deeply believe this was my last day on earth, I would end up eating bananna splits all day…Or I would be nervous like a person on Death Row, sick to my stomach and running back and forth to the restroom and crying a lot. Nothing would get done.
I prefer denial.
Here’s my process… Every morning, I like to get up late, rush around like crazy, barely make it out the door. I find this helps me avoid thoughts of death and the exestential uncertainty of the unknown.
Also, I choose a Personal Life Theme Song, and I suggest that for you as well.
If you have never chosen a Personal Life Theme Song for yourself, here are some ideas for you to choose from (Note: I’ve used all of these at some point myself):
1) We are the Champions (Queen)
2) I will Survive (Gloria Gaynor)
3) The Distance (Cake)
4) Eye of the Tiger (Some Guy in the 80s)
These are songs that will really motivate you and get you on a fast track to success.
And success is something I know a thing-or-two about, having just been declared the winner of a Forrest Gump Trivia Contest at the famous Bubba Gump Shrimp Co. last week.
But… Be warned… Choosing an effective Personal Theme Song is a slippery slope. You can’t just choose anything. It’s not about picking your favorite song…. Just because you had the hit song Always by Atlantic Starr sung at your wedding and you really like it…. So what? Thats a song about a bunch of people just saying they love each other over- and- over. It means nothing and will get you nowhere. Use it to put yourself to sleep, not succeed, move, and shake the way I do each day taking my dog for walks, and journaling my food intake.
Look, I don’t want to make you feel bad… It’s okay to admire some songs because they are good, and it’s even okay to listen to them… But don’t ever make them your theme songs. For example… The song Imagine by John Lennon is great song, and considered by some the best one written in the 20th Century… But if you make it your theme song, you might end up starting a cult or shooting yourself.
Here is a list of good songs that I would NOT recommend using for Motivational Life Theme Songs:
1) I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For (U2)… – Too Confusing
2) Smoking in the Boys Room (Motley Crue) – Too Sneaky
3) Stairway to Heaven (Led Zepplin) – The Devil.
Having a Personal Life Theme Song is a good thing to teach your children as well. I encourage this of Harper and you should consider doing the same with your little ones.
Let them choose their own song at first, even though you know in your heart it might not be the best. You don’t want to discourage success or motivational thought in your child.
Harper chose Baby Beluga. This wasn’t my favorite song for her… I would’ve preferred something like I’m a Little Teapot (more goal oriented) or Itsy Bitsy Spider (encourages persistence in the face of adversity), but Baby Beluga will work for now.
Also… Other bloggers and blog guides have told me I need to start asking you more questions, and this will help me succeed more at this.
So, I pose this question to you: Going forward, what will be your Personal Life Theme Song and what are your secret hopes for your child’s?
Write them here.
Or do what I did… Write them in a food journal, and then leave them at Starbucks.